What Could I Have Done to Save my Marriage?
Posted: March 2, 2017
Dr. Brian Stress, Psy.D.
Most likely, there is nothing you could have done to save your marriage if your partner wants a divorce beyond the obvious such as not physically, emotionally, financially, or sexually abusing your significant other. Unfortunately, there are as many reasons people divorce as there are stars in the sky (That was a sappy statement!). A healthy relationship consists of two individuals with hopefully the goal of developing and maintaining a relationship so both individuals receive more from the relationship than they put into the relationship. Unfortunately, at times, one partner may decide they no longer want to be in that relationship. We must respect their opinion even though it may hurt. This can be incredibly difficult but the other person generally has specific reasons, which may actually have nothing to do with you, as to why they want to end the relationship.
I think that most relationships are doomed for failure and cause constant pain of some sort if they choose to be involved in a relationship with a person who does not eventually place as much value and resources into the relationship as their partner.
All we can do about the past is learn from it, try not to repeat our mistakes, and move forward with our lives to the best of our ability. All humans make mistakes!
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