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"He Said, She Said" Divorce Blog
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Should we wait for our children to move out before we get divorced?
Posted on June 13th by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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Hi! I'm Nicole Myers Licensed Professional Counselor and were going to talk today about the subject of divorce.  In my career, I speak to many people who have been affected by a divorce.  In fact, most people I talk to have been affected by divorce; one way or another.  We all know someone whose parents have been divorced, whose children are divorced or maybe we ourselves have been divorced. 

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What if my family or friends do not support me and my choice to get a divorce?
Posted on June 5th by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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Hi, I'm Nicole Myers, Licensed Professional Counselor. If you would like to know more about me or my colleagues, please check out our introductions available in video, audio or text.

The question today is: What do I do if my family or friends do not support me and my choice to get a divorce?

If you're contemplating divorce, your marriage is failing. This is going to be very difficult for you because you've been seeking support from people who are not encouraging you to do the…

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I did not see the divorce coming: How do I deal with the shock, sadness and pain of this betrayal?
Posted on May 26th by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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Hi, I'm Nicole Myers, Licensed Professional Counselor. In my career, as I've mentioned before, I speak with a lot of people who have dealt with or are dealing with divorce. Whether we chose it, or someone has chosen it in our lives, it affects most people in our generation.  

 The question for today is: My significant other just told me they wanted a divorce. I did not see this coming. how do I handle the shock, sadness and pain of this betrayal?Read the full story and leave comments. »


How do I tell my significant other I want a divorce
Posted on May 3rd by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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Hi! I'm Nicole Myers Licensed Professional Counselor and were going to talk today about the subject of divorce.  In my career, I speak to many people who have been affected by a divorce.  In fact, most people I talk to have been affected by divorce; one way or another.  We all know someone whose parents have been divorced, whose children are divorced or maybe we ourselves have been divorced. 

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How do I get over depression and guilt after a divorce?
Posted on April 7th by Dr. Brian Stress, Psy.D.

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It would be unusual to not experience some level of depression and guilt when going through a divorce considering all the financial, emotional, physical, and cognitive resources you and your soon to be ex have put into the relationship that is ending. Think of the ending of the relationship as inflicting an emotional wound, like a scab on your knee but an emotional scab, in order to improve your life for better. With time and effort, the emotional wound will, more likely than not, scab up and…

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How do I introduce my children to a new romantic partner after a divorce?
Posted on April 6th by Dr. Brian Stress, Psy.D.

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Please remember that the children do not dictate when parent's divorce, or not, which may results in them feeling helpless during this process. Forcing any relationship on your children may unleash resentment and may provide your children with the ammunition to get even with you for perceived injustice they have endured. It would be understandable that your children may be scared that they are going to be forgotten or replaced by your new partner and possibly their…

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What is the Best Way to Communicate with my Significant Other During a Divorce?
Posted on April 1st by Dr. Brian Stress, Psy.D.

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Communicating with a soon-to-be ex can be incredibly complicated and the difficulty level is generally related to the amount of conflict between you and your ex. The primary difficulty I see when working with individuals who are going through a divorce is one partner may be passively or openly attacking their soon-to-be ex because they feel they have been wronged. This generally results in the other each person attacking their soon to be ex over and over again. The…

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How long should I wait before I begin to date after me and my partner split up?
Posted on March 30th by Dr. Brian Stress, Psy.D.

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A healthy relationship with your next romantic partner generally occurs when you are comfortable with yourself, first. I am not aware of any specific time limit that is applicable to all humans after the ending of a romantic relationship to begin of another romantic relationship. Dating someone to avoid your feelings about your ex generally results in even more emotional and other problems throughout your life. When you are able to think about your ex and not be overwhelmed by your emotions…

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How do my partner and I tell our children about the divorce?
Posted on March 7th by By Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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When you decide to divorce, it is a very emotional and difficult time for you. Unfortunately, it is just as emotional and difficult for your children: they did not make this decision and must deal with multiple upcoming changes in their lives from divorce. You love your children and want the best for them, especially in difficult times. Very likely your children know people and have friends whose parents are divorced; they have ideas about what divorce means. This…

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What Could I Have Done to Save my Marriage?
Posted on March 2nd by Dr. Brian Stress, Psy.D.

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Most likely, there is nothing you could have done to save your marriage if your partner wants a divorce beyond the obvious such as not physically, emotionally, financially, or sexually abusing your significant other. Unfortunately, there are as many reasons people divorce as there are stars in the sky (That was a sappy statement!). A healthy relationship consists of two individuals with hopefully the goal of developing and maintaining a relationship so both…

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What is the best way to communicate with my significant other during a divorce?
Posted on February 7th by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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Going through a divorce likely means you really don't want to interact with your ex-spouse at all. Avoiding communication may feel like a positive choice as it may allow you to put off possible confrontations. However, there will inevitably be things to discuss with your ex-spouse such as your children's schedule, financial separation and even who gets the dog to name a few. Putting off these discussions won't make them go away; the need to figure these things out…

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How do I handle my children showing disrespect to a new significant other: "You're not my parent I don't have to listen to you" attitude?
Posted on January 21st by Dr. Brian Stress, Psy.D.

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If you decide you have emotionally healed enough to develop a relationship with a significant other, good for you, but it is complicated. It should be noted that the children did not decide to be in a relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend. They did not, nor should they, decide that their parents were going to divorce. They may resent that you are attempting to replace their mother or father with somebody they don't even know. I have worked with thousands of children who resent their…

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How do I handle my children showing disrespect to a new significant other ("You're not my parent; I don't have to listen to you" attitude)?
Posted on January 15th by By Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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You have moved on, ready to have a new relationship and all that entails. You have begun a new chapter in your life. Unfortunately, it looks like your children aren't joining you in your happiness with your new relationship. In fact, they may be actively working to undermine your happiness by being disrespectful to your new partner. This is not only frustrating, it can cause you a lot of distress as your new relationship is impacted by your children's behaviors. It is not unusual for children…

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How do I introduce my children to a new partner after divorce?
Posted on December 21st by By Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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Returning to dating can be thrilling, exciting, scary and even a lot of fun. If you have children, there is another whole aspect of dating: how will your children respond to your new boyfriend or girlfriend? This can be tricky. You want your children to be happy for you and enjoy this new person with you. We cannot control how our children react but we can help set the stage for a more positive interaction.

First of all, pick who you introduce your children to carefully. They don't…

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How do my ex and I figure out custody and placement of our children? What are the best options?
Posted on December 11th by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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It can be exhausting and painful to consider having less time with your children. You're used to seeing and caring for your children on a daily basis and now have to give up some of that placement time. You have been able to make decisions about your children's care within your household and now will need to share such custody choices. With divorce, you have to negotiate this unwanted change along with your own emotional, financial and physical adjustments. Having children together means…

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How do I get over depression and guilt after divorce?
Posted on December 4th by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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Divorce is a decision that impacts nearly all areas of our lives. It affects our financial status, where we live, who we spend time with and how we plan for our future, among other things. Divorce is a huge change and an ending to a part of our lives. Change can be very frightening and cause us much anxiety as we now face uncertainty about the future and unfulfilled expectations. There is loss of companionship, hopes, dreams and plans. Worse, we are half of the pair that made decisions which…

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How long is an appropriate amount of time to wait to start dating after my partner and I split up?
Posted on November 25th by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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Wouldn't it be great if someone could just give us a simple time schedule to follow? Unfortunately, and as you are probably already learning if you are asking this question, the answer is different for every individual; your timeline might not be the same as for others you know or even what others would like it to be. Fortunately, there are some clues to look for to help you decide when an appropriate time is to date for you.

Divorce is a huge, life-changing process. Don't rush. It…

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How do my partner and I tell our children about the divorce?
Posted on October 5th by Dr. Brian Stress, Psy.D.

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I suspect that you are not going to surprise your children if you tell them you are getting a divorce. Children know that their parents are not happy because they witness their parents interact constantly. I have not worked with any children who were not able to identify that their parents were constantly arguing or angry at each other unless a child was nonverbal or had some sort of handicap. Children sense whether a relationship between two people is good or bad,…

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What could I have done to save my marriage?
Posted on October 2nd by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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This is a very difficult topic. Chances are if you are thinking this, you are feeling a lot of regret and guilt over the loss of your marriage. You may have felt you were doing everything you could but still failed to keep the marriage alive. Of course, it is easy to look back and see things differently than we did in the moment. So, could you have done things differently that might have saved the marriage, probably. But, then again, maybe it still wouldn't have…

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How do I know if divorce is the next step in my marriage? When should I give up?
Posted on October 1st by Dr. Brian Stress, Psy.D.

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If you are in a relationship where you feel the relationship is slowly sucking the life out of you, you are not happy/miserable, you do not look forward to or even dred spending time with your partner or you find yourself thinking about divorce throughout most given days, you may want to consider divorce. It would also be appropriate to talk with one of our professional coaches about your thoughts and feelings. Talking with your partner may also clarify your feelings…

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How do I know if divorce is the next step in my marriage? When should I give up?
Posted on October 1st by Nicole Myers, MS, LPC

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If you are asking yourself these questions, you are in a very uncomfortable position. Something is not working for you to feel your marriage is no longer a positive part of your life. You might also be having difficulty believing your marriage could be healthy, again. Marriages take work from both partners in order to last in any healthy way. When one or both partners lose that focus, it can be very difficult to find the value in the marriage.

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